It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover ~ Review and Discussion

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Goodreads Synopsis ~

Sometimes it is the one who loves you who hurts you the most.

Lily hasn’t always had it easy, but that’s never stopped her from working hard for the life she wants. She’s come a long way from the small town in Maine where she grew up – she graduated from college, moved to Boston, and started her own business. So when she feels a spark with a gorgeous neurosurgeon named Ryle Kincaid, everything in Lily’s life suddenly seems almost too good to be true.

Ryle is assertive, stubborn, maybe even a little arrogant. He’s also sensitive, brilliant, and has a total soft spot for Lily. And the way he looks in scrubs certainly doesn’t hurt. Lily can’t get him out of her head. But Ryle’s complete aversion to relationships is disturbing. Even as Lily finds herself becoming the exception to his “no dating” rule, she can’t help but wonder what made him that way in the first place.

As questions about her new relationship overwhelm her, so do thoughts of Atlas Corrigan — her first love and a link to the past she left behind. He was her kindred spirit, her protector. When Atlas suddenly reappears, everything Lily has built with Ryle is threatened.

Review ~

This book deals with domestic violence and honestly, it’s one of my favourite reads so far the writing, the characters just everything about it I loved. I loved how brutally honest it was as well, there were no easy get outs and several times I was crying.

Lily grew up watching her dad be abusive towards her mum, she always said when she was older that she’d never let a man treat her like that. I guess we all share that in common with her, male or female, we all say we’d never let someone treat us like that. In practice, it’s another story. The story is split into two parts, the first part is where everything is happening, the good, the bad and the sad. The second part is where Lily makes her choices and is where everything that got built gets torn apart. 

I’ve never mentally struggled to finish a book before, not until this one. When you know it’s going to fall apart it’s hard, watching the characters come to the same conclusion you came to a few hundred pages earlier. 

If you want a book that challenges your views on love, and opens your eyes to what it’s like for some people in abusive relationships. Then pick this book up, just have some tissues on stand by. 

My Rating
5 star rating

 

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Now then if you have yet to read it, please do not read the discussion as it does contain spoilers, since I go into a chat about the book. DO come back once you’ve read this book, to read my thoughts and leave your thoughts in the comments below. You can skip down till you see the black and pink hearts again – that’ll be the end of spoilers.

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Discussion ~

I started reading this book at about 1am, I finished it at 4am just gone and I ended up just staying up all night. My mind was totally reeling after reading it because it was just so painfully honest and it hurt my heart but also made me question quite a few things. 

Firstly I want to talk about the part quite early on in the book where Lily is drunk and ends up laughing when Ryle burns his hand. Now he’s a neurosurgeon so obviously he’s going to be upset, because his hands are his career. She ended up trying to push him back and when it came to what to tell his sister Alyssa, who works for Lily in her flower shop. He wanted Lily to lie to her about her eye. 

Now to me, that was so wrong. But it happened, and Lily went with it and lied. She also told him if it ever happened again, she’d leave him. She drew a line – right there she drew this line and later on we see him cross the damn line. Lily’s problem is she kept telling herself he wasn’t like her father and she wasn’t like her mother. She was making up excuses for him and how he loved her – it hurt to read because this was exactly what her mother must have gone through.

Atlas. God I love him, it’s always easier to see a problem when you’re on the outside looking in. As soon as you’re in the middle of a problem or situation you don’t see it. You’re blind my emotions and biases. 

Something this made me think about was people showing their true colours. When someone shows their true colours and what they’re capable of, you know they’ll do it again at some point. It wasn’t a one off thing. Yet we don’t see it because usually in relationships we love that person, and we don’t want to believe that they are like it. Instead we write it off as an accident or they love us, so they didn’t mean it. The fact is, we’re usually hurt by the ones we love and trust the most, why? Probably because we’re most vulnerable around them, and sometimes they use that to their advantage and other times they can’t help their actions. 

Some people just aren’t compatible with each other, no matter how much you love someone. It’s something I think more books should deal with, love doesn’t conquer all. Sure it’s a nice thing to think about but the reality is harsher than that.

Now when they decided to get married I just sat there stunned. I honestly couldn’t believe what I was reading. How long have you known each other? How long have you been dating? DID YOU FORGET WHAT HE’S PREVIOUSLY DONE TO YOU? *coughs*

One of the things I found particularly interesting is how when Ryle did lose his temper of making assumptions and jumping the gun, so to speak. He lashed out at Lily and it usually resulted in her being hurt. Instead of actually admitting he was the reason she was hurt, he lied about it “You fell down the stairs” is one thing he said and I think it was interesting, as Lily clearly knew he was the reason.  But he was so set on not admitting he was hurting the person he loved.

I also want to highlight Alyssa right now, Ryle’s sister. What she said below made me cry, firstly because she’s a sister and most sisters would just take the side of their brother. Its family right? But what she said made me cry because more people need to be like her in their views.

“As his sister, I wish more than anything that you could find a way to forgive him. But as your best friend, I have to tell you that if you take him back, I will never speak to you again.” 

It was the last part, which got to me. The fact she was telling Lily to not forgive him and not take him back that killed me, how many sisters and even brothers would say this about their sibling? We want our sibling to be happy, but if it’s our best friend we want them to be happy too. The thing with this book was it was split into two parts. And the first part was the build up to when it all came crumbling down. 

When Lily found out she was pregnant it suddenly wasn’t just about her anymore, she couldn’t let her child grow up with Ryle treating her like that as she mentioned how you don’t remember the good things a persons done when you’ve seen the worst of them. She broke the cycle which would otherwise have continued thus ‘It Ends With Us’. (lowkey proud of myself when I realised why it was titled that.)

I think this books execution was excellent dealing with the topics it did, I also love how in the end Lily ended up with Atlas.

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If you read the book what did you think? If you’ve not read it, are you planning on it? I highly recommend you do. It surely gives you a lot to think about. 

 

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11 thoughts on “It Ends With Us by Colleen Hoover ~ Review and Discussion

  1. I really liked this book, even though I also struggled to finish it emotionally. I m happy Lily ended up with Atlas and not Ryle, because they were not compatible. In fact I am not sure if men like Ryle are compatible with anyone. Atlas is my hero!

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    • Aaaah I totally agree with you! I also struggled to finish it mentally because I knew it would all fall apart but like you I’m so glad she ended up with Atlas 🙂 thanks for reading

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